So, we are at a point of crisis in this process (probably the first of many). We are in a major holding pattern with regards to our home study and our agency. There is an internal issue with our agency and DCFS here in IL, which is putting our home study in its holding pattern. It is very frustrating right now. We have a home study that is ready to be reviewed and sent for approval, dossier docs ready to be reviewed and apostilled, and we cannot do any of it or move foraward!!
So, the crisis? Do we switch agencies or stay with our current one? That is the big question that we are facing right now, and the big decision we have to make. I feel like we are at the make it or break it point in the process for switching (or at least the ideal time to do it). We have been doing a lot of research, talking to a lot of people, and are working on sorting it all out. We knew and expected there would be bumps in the road, but switching agencies was definitely not one of them!!! All in all, we think that switching might set us back a month or so, but considering the uncertainty of when the issue with our agency will be cleared, a month doesn't seem so bad.
Once we decide what we are doing, we will update the blog. I am so completely frustrated right now, and for the first time since we started this whole process, I broke down in tears (probably not the last time, right?!) Anyway, enough negative vibes for the night!
Best wishes to all our blogging friends who are travelling right now and meeting their children and awaiting court dates! We are so happy for you and can't wait to read more about your little ones!! And congratulations to those families who had successful court dates and are now proud parents!!! Safe journeys to Kaz and home:)
Also, one of these days (when our normal computer is working), we will post the pics of our other "kids" and baby Vaughn's room like we have been promising!!!
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Hey you two,
Sounds very frustrating, and we are so sorry you are facing this dilemma.
We both feel strongly that working with an agency you feel comfortable with is so, so important. It may be worth the aggravation & loss of a month to make a change.
The way we see it is this: there are SO many bumps in the road when it comes to international adoption, and there are so many potential issues to face, that the one thing we felt we wanted/needed to count on was that our agency would be 100% on top of it all on our behalf.
Please, please feel free to email us personally: jennylri@yahoo.com (I cannot find your email or I would have written back privately). We are happy to share our thoughts about all of this with you. We did so much research and spoke to zillions of people before making a choice to go with Little Miracles..and, given our current situation, we are very glad we chose them. Happy to share much more - or to just check in.
Thinking of you. Sorry you are facing such frustration. I know the feeling - I've been keeping a special stash of tissues near me at all times since we started this process.
Hang in there!
Jennifer
You know I support you both and am happy to answer any questions or help in any way I can.
I read your comment on our blog. In response to question about adding email to blogger:
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Angela
Hang in there. We totally understand your plight, although we have different circumstances. This hold-up (either way) will NOT jeapardize you adopting. It does NOT make you less entitled to be a parent. This has nothing to do with you, although it greatly affects you and your timeframs.
I do understand because at first, we were adopting from China. But missed the deadline for the new restrictions. We had the whole dossier complete except for the I-171-H. We are actually so glad it worked out that way, even though we had to start over with a new dossier. I bawled for days because we were no longer getting that sweet little baby in a white dress with white bow in her hair. (I saw her in my head). With Kaz, you can't envision because the child wont have a predictable hair or skin color.
Anyway, Im not going to say that things work out for the best. But I will say that you are entitled to be frustrated and sad and angry and confused. But it doesnt change your course, only your timeframe.
Hi guys,
I really feel for you. You are in such a tough position and it is a very difficult decision you are trying to make, with no clear answers. Where's the crystal ball???
It's OK to be sad, frustrated, angry. Cry your eyes out. This is big stuff. But hang in there until your inner drive and faith rise again, and you charge forward with whatever decision you make. (Which I'm sure will be the right one.)
Big hugs,
Regina
This whole adoption process can be so frustrating. I'm sorry about the DCFS problem. We too are from Illinois, but finished with DCFS well over 1/2 a year ago. I think we've all had our crying fits and it hasn't been the first nor will it be the last.
Hi!
We are sorry to hear of your frustrations.
We are working with Gladney, their KZ program is new, but they are with an experienced in country team.
We have been assingned to the Uralsk region and only await our LOI before we can travel. So far the longest we waited beyond a predicted time frame was three days. Not bad!
We hope your way becomes clear soon.
-Keith & Erin Martin
Wow guys, I am really sorry to hear that you are going through all of this. It can't be easy, especially with the holidays upon us! You're in my prayers! Let me know if there's anything I can do...a cup of coffee and some time to vent or dinner/shopping and distraction? ;~) Whatever happens, I am positive that things will work out for the best.
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